“I
didn’t know anything different...part 2”
By
Rev. Tom Tuura
Pastor
of Christ Lutheran Church
Last
month’s Focus reminded us marriage is no longer the majority type
of household. We reviewed the disastrous impact of the sexual
revolution because it promises personal autonomy but delivers
slavery.
Married
or single, the Bible teaches God created you for His purposes—you
are his. He is our loving Father who gives us meaning and purpose.
We all begin life as single solitary individuals cared for by God,
and will end life this way, before His throne, not autonomous, but
accountable.
For
those who haven’t known anything different other than the Hollywood
influence, the Sex Education influence, and have embraced the
pervasive influence of the sexual revolution, consider something
radical.
God
understands you, because He made you. He further sent His son to
this earth as a baby, and Jesus lived as a single man experiencing
first hand all the temptations of youth and adulthood (Heb. 4:15).
Singleness involves our attitudes and opinions about our own life and
relationships, through adolescence and life. It is learning
self-control over all things, including our inner desires, including
raging hormones. It is learning to strive for self discipline and
also purity and chastity. It is learning that we are not capable of
these things without grace. God understands these very real internal
struggles and battles even if we don’t. We take these attitudes
into our future relationships and marriage. The Bible particularly
emphasizes, teaches and warns about this subject speaking of our
“conduct”. Peter, in his brief epistles, uses the word 9 times,
“but
as He who has called you is holy, so be holy in all your conduct”
(1 Peter 1:15). This is in contrast to what he calls “filthy
conduct” of the residents of Sodom, “and delivered righteous Lot
who was oppressed by the filthy conduct of the wicked”
(2 Peter 2:7).
To
repeat, we are not capable in and of ourselves to overcome these
urges, or what the Bible calls the “flesh” without God’s grace.
So as this relates to our subject, and sexuality, the biblical
sexual ethic consists of “The thou shalt nots...” They get a bad
rap. But God is no kill-joy simply to be cruel. The commandments
are for our good. He gives us tough love, and warns us as a parent
does his precious child about to run into traffic, Stop!
The
sexual revolution of the last 50-60 years, emphatically says “Go!”
Our sinful flesh agrees.
And
people are jumping on board. Church participation rates are
plummeting in mainline congregations. The bad news goes on and on.
Albert
Mohler Jr. president of the SBTS in his program The Briefing is
correct when he makes this distinction quoting from and article by
Noelle Mering in the Federalist entitled “Is sexual autonomy worth
the cost of human lives?” It says, “The
promise of the sexual revolution is that sex can be meaningless.
Indeed it has to be meaningless to
preserve our autonomy. If it has intrinsic meaning independent of
what we want it to mean, then that might signify that we have duties
independent of our autonomy.” This society insists upon
treating everyone as completely autonomous. Is sexual autonomy worth
the cost of human lives? This autonomy brings slavery, not
liberation.
Perhaps
the biggest threat to this autonomy is a little baby who is reliant
upon his mother and father.
Marriage
isn’t autonomous either.
What
is marriage? Marriage is another box to be checked on a form. It is
practiced in every culture since the beginning of time. It has been
described as a contract. The state issues you a license. It allows
you to have various, tax considerations, insurance, and pension
benefits. It profoundly affects business, estates, partnerships and
property. And now the Supreme Court of the United States, says, that
it is also for two men, or two women. It is limited to monogamy—for
now. Marriage is big.
This
month we want to reflect on the radical ideals of sacred matrimony,
not just an ordinary contract. We move from the cultural, legal, and
the clinical to the biblical; from marriage to Holy Matrimony. This
is God’s plan, not man’s plan. Its not autonomy, but submission
and accountability.
I
suspect many people today see marriage primarily from a cultural,
legal or clinical sense. But there is so much more. Look into the
face of Christ, and the marriage supper of the Lamb we wrote about a
few months back. But is it too late?
Jacob
Lupfer in a June 2018 opinion piece, in Religious News Service,
(religious news with a liberal slant) writes, “Religious
congregations hosted 22 percent of weddings in 2017, down from 41
percent in 2009. Churches are losing ground to banquet halls, hotels,
country clubs, wineries, rooftops and museums...Clergy are
solemnizing fewer and fewer marriages. Instead, couples are turning
to civil magistrates or even loved ones who obtain credentials. In
2009, 29 percent of couples had a friend or family member solemnize
their wedding. That number had increased to 43 percent by 2016.”
Then
he asks, does it matter? Some of the same data reports that less
than 25 percent of weddings are actually held in a church.
A
larger question is does anyone care about sacred matrimony? Parents,
we need to teach our young people about sacred matrimony and not let
Hollywood and the University have all the influence.
In
Paradise, Adam and Eve, literally single man and woman needed to
become “one flesh” in the marriage bond where they experience the
beauty of being one, “flesh”. Sexual union within marriage is
ideally a beautiful pleasurable bond with an end outside of itself,
not as Ms Mering writes in her Federalist article, “I
tried casual relationships a handful of times with guys I had
chemistry with, but I realized that they just made me feel bad about
myself. I was always so painfully aware of the fact that the only
reason these guys were talking to me was because I was letting them
sleep with me…”
.
Christian
marriage is unique—a whole new worldview. It is a picture of
redemption and Christ and His bride the Church. Marriage here on
earth is a special, blessed and sacred estate between a man and a
woman becoming husband and wife. God created marriage at creation.
In the New Testament then it is a spiritual picture of Christ’s
redemption of solitary man and woman at Calvary loved and precious
before God. He is the groom and we are his glorious bride.
Marriage
has a very large cultural, legal and societal footprint. But the
Christian marriage worldview is too important to be lost. There is
too much at stake, namely the very young.
Children
are a heritage from the Lord. But now seen as mere biological
“choices” of the expression of rights in the sexual revolution,
they are to be prevented, and then possibly eliminated by whim and
circumstance because they may hinder the precious autonomy of the
individual.
Instead
they are true miracles from heaven, ideally conceived in love, and as
David says, “Your
formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will
praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made...your eyes saw
my unformed substance; and in Your book they all were written, the
days fashioned for me, when as yet there were none of them.”
(Psalm 139:15)
So
many people, young and old, have never known anything different. And
consequently they have never thought these things through. Well
this is not only different, but radical. The sexual revolution,
packaged by formal education (and now even by mainline churches), and
delivered by Hollywood, welcomed by our own sinful flesh, does not
bring autonomy or liberation. It brings instead, bondage and slavery
(Rom 8:34). True liberation is found only in Christ.
There
are two very different paths today that are battling for
predominance. Which will you choose?
That’s
my view from the Blackberry Patch Pulpit
Pastor
Tom
Copyright
2019